My son was lied to by a girl that said she was 17 and he was 19. and they had consenting sex. This was in washington state. Then to find out the judge is related to the girl. She has done this type of thing before. and now my son has to register cause of this girl that lied about her age. I feel something needs to be done with poeple like her that lie about there age. They should have to register for entrapment.

I agree with Angie my boys have been taken away from their father and what are we the mothers supposed to tell our kids about why they can't see or even visit thier father. My husband is an offender and has done his time and been in treatment which has helped him be a better person society needs to understand that no matter what men ands women do they can get help and change to better out in society with all the other freaks out there. My family are going to be moving back to Iowa to be close to my family and we would like for DHS to stay out of our lives. They think that they can run the offenders lives. If the offender like my husband who has paid the price of being away from the boys and I that we get the chance to rebuild our life together without outsiders trying to tell what we can and can't do. We would like to be able to go out in public without people pointing and stareing.

I am concerned about these things as well. My best friend was molested by her step father from the time she was 3 until she was a teen before she told somebody. She honestly didn't understand what was happening until she hit puberty. When she told her family, they didn't believe her at first! I wish this on nobody. I now have a daughter that is 1 1/2 years old and am concerned about what the itnernet could present to her when she is older.

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i'm a registered sex offender and you may think we are all monsters but all i did was had a child with add adhd who was admiting to being sexualy active so i had a sex talk with her and bought condoms and told her to use then ! the police thought that this was inapporite and put me in prison for 6 years now i'll have to live with having to register for the rest of my life so be careful what and how you handle talking to your kids about sex becouse the police dont care all they want is their quotas!

I see so many comments about the sexual offenders and the story that go with them. Most people don't read the criminal laws, because most parents have violated these laws, why, for example in florida you do not have to have union with a victim, but make contact in the improper areas. WELL, I QUESS YOU ALL CAN NOT BATH YOU CHILDREN ANY MORE.

Because under florida law you have committed a crime where you have come in contact with their improper areas. Fun, how many people label people and judge them. If you want to comment on something then clearly read the laws of your state and find out if you committed these same acts, by the define wording of the law.

Don't get me wrong they are those who need to be punished, yet look at the whole picture. They is no black or white writing on these laws, and so many professional working in this field abuse it. I would suggest you read case laws and other facts. Don't lable until every fact is avaiable to you

I am the mother of a now sex offender. My son at 17 was involved in a relationship with a 13 year old. 14 years ago this was not concidered illegal. He has always been immature for this age. He has ADDHD issues. I took him out of the public school system cause of the type of "friends" he associated with. Now this, being on the sex offenders list for life for falling in love. They both lose their innocense, but he is being punished or it. He is a threat to no one, other than himself. He took the plea offer because he feared imprisonment and was told by his lawyer that he would be required to register for 12 years and that he would not appear on the website if he took the offer. Two days before his 18th birthday he found out from one of his friends that he was on that site. I called there and was told that the plea offer he took put him on it for life. I called his lawyer, he called the corrections office himself and called me back and he was checking into this matter. He won't talk to he and the the secretary says he's still working on it. He will until the day he dies or I do, which ever comes first. He has 2 years probation and 10 years parole. He has been under house arrest since 9/25 and it's my understanding they can do this up to 5 years. I blame myself because if he would have stayed in school, he may found someone closer to his age and not so willing to push the sex issue that she was. My son told me, "Even though my life, freedom wise is basically over, I feel relieved, because I'm not obligated to her anymore. She told me that I would always be obligated to her." No one that knows him can understand this action towards him. I have always tried to protect my kids, but I didn't see this coming. I never thought that teen sex could be turned into a crime. I always thought the list represented the true preditors that prey on children, women and even men. It holds no credibility to me now. It's just a devise to punish someone for life. In this case the law was the crime.

My husband touched my daughter on the breast and the following day went and turned himself in to the police department because he wanted to do what was right my my daughter. He is now on 2 years house arrest and 10 years probation. He received more time because he turned himself in. People who have had sex received less time. He was modlested as a child from the age of six throught his early teen-age years but never told anyone. He always felt ashamed and realized he had an issue the day he touched my daughter. She was 14 at the time. Each of you pass judgement so quickly that I am wondering if you don't have anything dark hovering in your closet that you would not want others to see. My daughter has forgiven my husband and so have I. He does not live in our house but we keep in contact with him. He is making hugh progress and wants something good to come out of this. He said if he could do something that would prevent this from happening to another family, he would do it. I would suggest that all of you before you quickly want to put someone out to hang that maybe you look in the mirror and see what type of person you are. Facts show that if you put a group of 100 women in a room, 80% of them have been modlested. We don't have that many registered sex offenders. Next time you go to the movies, you could be sitting next to a sex offender who never came to terms with his condition. These are the ones you need to worry about. Facts show that only 1 in 4 sex offenders repeat their offense.

At nine or ten years old I was very curious about girls because Im gender dysphoric I always thougt I was a girl.So I played You show me yours Ill show you mine. To see exactly how I was different.At 13 or 14 I was charged for that action and put in a treatment facility.The treatment methods whre near torture there They tell you your sick and will never get bettr all you can do is hope to AVOID reafending.Its amazing that the people who faild the program because they knew that was bullarky never reofended but the programs star pupils graduating the program did.While I was there I was molested in the extream Iwake up screaming because of it.They made these children int the program tell interns and college students who had no right being there what they had done in extream detail. In my last year there a 16 year old hung himself and died because they had him convinced he wouldnt get better.At eighteen I was released and since I wouldent tell the group about when I was raped when I was six-Because I didnt remember-I failed the program.I was made to register two days after my eighteenth birthday and now they may change the law to fifteen years.My life has been hell on it people call me name and I have been attaked For something I did at 9 or 10

to Old Timer thank you for the advice I will talk to him about it I am sure he would do that we are taking with our minister currently about issues and I have a mentor that I talk to when my husband is out of town he is a truck driver when he was in prison he studied the bible like all other have done and are doing but he contiued and received certificates and diplomas from two colleges and he still contiues his studies on his own and through our church.which has been a very big help for him he has learned so much about how life is so important and he is careful with the law one good thing is that they did not restricked him from everything he is allowed to go to state parks and he can go to the school where my daughter attend only to pick her up if need be and to go to her graduation and award shows. I have learned one thing that is was the parents of the girl who pressed charges not the girl and after my husband was sentenced she got married that was only 1 month later they checked to be sure she was not pregnant and she was not but she did cheat on her boyfriend and it was not teh only guy she was with she also came on to her uncle and he went to jail as well. So what I see out of it that girl is a black widow. trouble maker for men. My husband is doing well he as been out since 2002 and he was on probation and it would ahve been up 2010 and they new law changed it now he has to register for life but one layer sedn hima letter that can help him change that law. and he would be free from registering. I hope this lawyer is for real is sure would be nice. thank you again and God bless to those who have family that do suffer from much pain from other sex offenders that really hurt young children.

oklahoma: the most obvious thing would be for both of you together to see a marriage counsellor about this. Please remember that if you expect him to stay clean, he needs to go to a group that deals with offender motivations. He must understand how to stop future behaviors. (IMO) good luck

I am married to a sex offender but first I should say that he was wrong in what he did the girl told him she was 20yrs old and she had been having a crush on him for a year and kept making passes at him. Well it turned out she was not 20 even though she dressed like it it got him 6 yr in jail tehn 10 year of probation well that is over but he is still registered because they made changes now he has a new label for the rest of his life. I don't know what happen that day only what he told me and his family told me another sad thing is I did not know about it until a few months later after we were married and I was pregnant he said he wanted me to get to know him for who he really is then he was going to tell me I felt he was being selfish on his part and very wrong for not being honnset with me in the beginning. I also had a 10 year child from a prvious marriage I stuck it our with him and hoped it would go away I trusted him he never touched my daughter or hurt her in anyway or our son in anyway he still has to register and police check on hhim frequently to see if he still lives at the same address I wanted to know if anyone has some advice for me I don't know If I should stay married to him or divorce him we have a child together and I would hate to destroy that childs family life after i all ready detroyed my daughters by leaving her dad. My husband like I said has never hurt any of the kids he is a good chirstian man provide well for us sure he made a mistake becuase of the poor family history he has I would appreciate all advice. Thank you from Oklahoma

Saying every sex offender is a predator is wrong. That's like saying everyone who owns a gun is a potential murderer. You guys are way off base by saying that they should be publicly humiliated.

Be the registry right or wrong, your comment is additional proof that the registry is "double jeapardy" for some people. You want the offender humiliated as "punishment". It is not YOUR right to punish, nor the state registry. (IMO) It is the job of the courts to punish. Sometimes I wonder where the constitution went wrong...

Once an offender always an offender. I don't care how old you were when you or someone you know offended the fact of the matter is, the person still offended. It is not fair to people that have kids and don't know that people are on the registry, or cant find them on the registry and then all of a sudden you find out some body is. If you offend you DESERVE to be PUBLICALLY HUMILIATED and you deserve to have your name posted on every site that has a registry listing.

Do you think we can stop sexual offense, Hex? It has been around since before Christ. We can only work to make things better (IMO)

SURE, LETS PLAY HOW MANY PEOPLE WE CAN MESS UP. BEFORE WE DO SOMETHING, AND SEE IF WE KEEP LRTTING THESE S.O.B.'S OUT, IF THEY WILL CHANGE? WHAT EVER!!! ( THE TRUE OFFENDERS, AND PREDITORS) TAMMY RICH HEX, HEXGIRL FLORIDA

i fell like if they done the time n then they get out if they have there head on stragit then we should leave them a lone ...but if they do it again then we are right on top of them

Mike,

You should have lost your wife, kids, etc... That is sick. How could a father touch his child in a way sexually? You sound like you need help, and for the rest of your life in that manner. Your lucky your children still love you after what you did too your daughter, and you say your a good person!!! A good person does'nt touch their children, daughter, what ever in a sexual manner, and it sounds like you got off luck from the State, which seems to happen to SOB's like yourself, and then you have people who do not offend, because its both con... and they are getting the book thrown at them, your story on here is alot of reasons why people read things on this sight just too see how the State really is unfair to vic.. and their famly's. At least you can forgive your self, and your children can, but your ex-wife did the best thing a mother could do, leave your ass, and go!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HEX

im a sex offender i was married for 11years i touch my stepdaughter wrong i lost my wife my other 3 daughter ive never been in trouble before im in my 40i love my kids very much but i was very selfish n wrong n what i did all my girls still love me alot now there dad is consider a monster ive live my schools all my live never bothher anyone or hurt anyone else kids it sad ive live here allmy life know ive have to live n a dump hole im a good dad always was but i had a problem im takeing care of i was put on probation and put on the registry wish his not right what happened in my family isnt no one else concern i dont ask or hear anything about your life im a low risk what the goverment does is give false hope they should worrie about the bad one that your prison board let out and knew that where that a high risk and they killed someone thats not my fault people should put the blame where it belongs my four girls should have to get punish by or made fun of because there dad is list has a sex offener people should be ashame just like i was and 4 out of five dont do it again the news have it all wrong and the goverment to and some people in this world i would safe your children from anyone if i seen them getting taken or hurt im a good person always have been and a loving one thanks for reading

Offenders are fighting and winning some of these residency laws. They clearly are additional punishment in most cases. True, offenders should not be allowed to hang out with children. But, they should be allowed to live where they want and work at a job without being harrassed. They need to reconnect with society after incarceration, as do all former crimnals. (IMHO)

How does any of the laws stop some one who is not on the registery? A sex offender can't live 2000 feet near a school but who knows who is going to be a sex offender? I live in a town where sex offenders can't live here at all. But if they haven't been caught they can live in this town. This town is offender. Sex offenders are the new group they hate. They hated mexicans in the 80s, they hated blacks in the 70s, gays in the 90s. Don't get me wrong they still hate all of them. They use the laws to keep them out of their town. Sex offenders are not the problem our goverment is.

Maine has gone back to 1982

Why do people have to register if they were released on or after January 1,1995 and the ones released December 31,1994 don't? We are talking about a one day margin here... And how is making people register

going to stop or prevent them from committing another offense? The whole thing is a joke and nothing more than politicians and law enforcement trying to cover their lacking abilities to stop this awlful thing of our childern being abused and to get votes! No matter how you approach the matter someone's constutional rights are being invaded...which is wrong!

I don't have the answers...but some people don't care about the laws no matter what they are...so making new laws that are more stern ain't gonna change things...it's a spiritual problem that laws can't control. Nuff Said

as a wife of a sex offender i think thay sould not be lumped in one but leval tham and thay should not be told becouse there on probation for something that happened befor they got marriied and had children that after 10 months of liveing with there child who made a bond be told your wife and child needs to leave and ask if could have visits and be told no to me the child is being abused where is that childs rights to have a parent

I must admit that I'm one of those adults who fell short in fighting the war against sexual offenders. When my husband disclosed to me several years ago that his adoptive father propositioned him to let him have sex with him during their life together, I didn't put on the armor I should have. Instead of shunning his adoptive father and encouraging my husband to steer away from having anything to do with him, I allowed him to remain in our lives and continue to confuse and distort my husbands mind. I feel like a failure; weak. HOWEVER, it's not too late. I've always felt that everything happens for a reason, so instead of lingering on what I "should have" done, my husband and I have been blessed with an opportunity to actually do it! His adoptive father is now a national public figure in the black community, and we're using his fame as an opportunity to increase awareness about sexual offenders - specifically, those who prey on children.

I am very concerned about child sexual predators who come from Illinois into Iowa for work. I can't believe they don't have to register. There is a man working with a local youth group at Cedar Memorial Christian Church in Davenport, and the church will do nothing about it!

i believe people need think about the laws they are asking for ,i would rather know a sexoffender was right next door then not know where they live at all. i think with the new laws we are asking for them to hide .cause we dont seem to give them a second chance ,not all of them will hurt agin . i have been abused my self as a child ,but i still know that all of them cant be helped .