This is for the guy who posted he taped him and his girlfriend while they were both underage. You can appeal to the courts to get the charge expunged from your record. It would take a little money for an attorney but well worth it in the long run. Raw deals happen that is why the courts have appeals, expungements, clemency, etc.

When I was 12 years old I was one of these children you all speak of whose life was ruined by a sex offender. I am a mother today , a grandmother and have done quite well for myself and my child. My perpetrator was a law official of all people! a person that children are taught to trust and believe they are good. I have lived with this for 32 years and I can still remember it just as if it happened yesterday, the doors closing, the room darkening, ............................... You know we have to come to peace within ourselves to live in peace, listen to the rage in these posts and most of you were not even violated or even had a loved one violated. and to the ones who were violated or have had loved ones violated I too was angry, ashamed, thought I had done something to bring this on myself and here I was only 12. It took me running away from home because it happened just across the street from where I lived and I knew my mom could not afford to move on what little she made and EVERYTIME! EVERYTIME I walked out my front door I relived it over and over again. I ran and ran and ran, this went on until I finally got pregnant so I could marry to get away. Yeah I know most you guys are saying "Dumb broad why didn't you just tell someone" Well guys I was to ashamed!! Of what I don't know you just are and all you want to do is RUN! It is kind of like that first bath you just can't get clean enough you scrub and scrub and soak and soak and when you get out you want to get back in again who knows why you just do! So I have been there and touched rock bottom. I had to reach deep within over the years, to heal and to find this inner peace and if you don't it will consume you! People can change, who are we to condem or judge? I would think that I of all would have a moral and ethical reason to condemn these men and women but I don't. I had one 1 perpetrator, as long as I know where he is and what he isn't doing keeps me at peace. I could lash out at them all but I don't know these people or thier charges or the circumstances leading up to the charges, just like one guy said takin a pee on a side road nowadays can land you on this registry. Everyone has an obligation to thier children to be concerned, and informed but lets do it with an open mind, these are and I do say ARE people to and if we judge to harshly the good lord may have a plan for us too once we go to meet him.

Well guess I might as well wear my welcome out and post to the "mother who assumes all people are child molesters in order to protect her children" I have heard it all and, I take that quite offensive and I am surely glad that you are not my next door nieghbor!!! Do you realize what you are doing to your children? If you truly are raising them this way! You know someone who causes thier children to develop such a paranoia could possibly cause thier children to develop an obsession with pedephilia. Maybe you should put all your ducks in a row before you call it.

We are all so quick to swing the whip.... Well how about we turn the tables and ask the court systems to do something with these girls that go out with guys sleep with them and get caught then cry rape!!! Once concensual sex should remain consensual as long as it is within the guidelines of the law. In the state of Ky concensual sex is the age of 16. It is cases like these that make the real rape cases so damn hard on the victim. Yeah! are some of you so called victims out there I would love to hear your side! Not only does it hurt the victim but often ruins the accused life forever. Some of these cases on this registry today are "CRY rape" charges! But because of financial reasons, or the poor mans attorney "Public defender" who only knows "cop a plea" landed them here where all we can do is find 101 reasons to keep knocking them down, running them out of our nieghborhoods, keep them from working a legitimate job, redicule thier children for their crime, keep them from attending school functions if possible with their children and if they do attend avoid them at all costs, and then wonder why they re- offend!DUH Maybe not the same crime as before but they have to live, eat, and breathe and should have the expectation as any murderer or drug-dealer "that by the way could be sitting next to you at the next parent /teacher meeting or live two doors down from your home" of some normal life for himself and family. A murderer can harm your child, take them for good, a drug dealer would just as soon sell to your child as mine yet we don't seem to care to share our neighborhoods with them and have their crimes concealed! Why should we claim to protect so much from one intity when there are so many. I would think one was just as important as the other. But yet we only focus on one and a lot of the times blindly. Do away with the loose girls who "CRY rape" and put charges on them and make a "CRY rape registry to put the false accusers on to protect society from them.

To the lady in Hardin Co. with the sex offender living next door to her. I can understand your frustrations but you said it was in 95 correct me if I am wrong. Do you know what his crime was? Obviously he is a lifetime registrar or he would have been taken off after 10 years, was his crime against a child under the age of consent in your state, or the age of 12, was it rapeof a child or an adult? Being informed is knowing these things not just assuming. I know you feel like that making the authorities list his current address seems like the right thing to do, but if it were me I would find out all I could about his offense or offenses and then decide the action to take. If they were to list his address would you feel safer? Being informed and knowing what they are capable of would spell safe to me. Put the shoe on the other foot for just a moment, please hear me out...:-) I am by no means defending this man I do not know him or his situation, however from what you have told me he has been free of this conviction for over a decade and appears to have not re-offended, although he seems to have some emotional issues that could have a lot to do with what he lives with on a daily basis. and he made a pass at your 18 yr old daughter. If it were me I would educate my children of the many dangers outside our doors, and I believe your daughter can handle the situation if it should arise again by simply saying "Not interested" and continue to avoid him. Just as she would the man on the other side making advances without his name on the registry. Their are a lot of "freaky lookin people" in the world, that does not mean they are bad! He may think the same thing about the guy across the street. I would inform people once I had knowledge of this mans conviction if it was warranted, but he has harmed no one or done no wrong to your home or anyone elses. If he reeks havoc in his home thats his home as long as he keeps it there! You can inform your neighbors should this be warranted beyond the registry. Just a little advice.. you follow your heart. Good luck and best wishes!

This is my last post I promise:-) Seems to me the best approach to this registry is to focus first and foremost on the violent offenders, most recent offenders, re-offenders, and ones most likely to re-offend. These should pop up first on the registry. Then your have your offenders who have been out and made an attempt at a productive life, shown that they can find and maintain employment, and have led a law abiding life since their release. There should be a history of at least 5 years or more of good citizenship. We give them credit for good behavior in prison why can't we show this credit beyond the walls. This type of encouragement can only encourage more and possibly inspire others. When we continue to close doors and refuse to recognize even the ones who are trying to do the right things and live within the laws it only cries out for failure. This, I think has a lot to do with why so many fall. Maybe if we walked along beside that one man who made it 8 years as a productive citizen, he could stand tall again and have a worth of himself. We are all Gods children and I know there are many who just cannot be helped, and for those lost souls we do need strict protection for our children. But we can't label everyone of these men and women the same a large majority just want a chance to live a normal life.

Why do we tend to accept one form of crime into our nieghborhoods and toss another out so angrily. We have murderers released everyday from our prisons and they have to live somewhere and of course it is in our nieghborhoods with our children, how do we know what they are capable of next? To me someone that could take anothers life could do just about any thing else to another person be it man, woman or child and thier is no re-form in our prisons, so often they come out worse than when they went in. Drug dealers are released every day, where do they live... in our nieghborhoods with our children playing outside. We all know that drugs are on the inside of our prisons as well as outside so they have come out just as bad as when they went in and they have had no re-form. They can put our children up to selling drugs, doing drugs, drive by shootings in our nieghborhoods but we seem to turn a blind eye to these crimminals and can live with them without regitrys or knowing if they live next door or not. But let someone piss in an alleyway or get out of a shower accidentally and thier life is ruined. We want to run them out of the nieghborhoods and possibly off the face of the earth even put them on an island somewhere. While the guy or gal two doors down just sold a crack rock to a 14 yr old. And a convicted murderer lives upstairs, but you just got that SO evicted across the road so now you think you are safe and so are your kids. How as a society have we become so bitter! I by no means uphold SO because I am a victim, but we have to stop punishing these men an women as though they all have done violent atrosities to children. A lot of these men are victims of CRY rape cases where girls got caught by parents or they just got mad because things didn't go thier way. Some are merely accusations and finances played a big role where a court appointed attorney will have them cop pleas to a crime that should have been taken to court and fought and won but instead it is easier to do the latter. People we need to get informed before we start pointing fingers, judge not lest you be judged. This registry does not state the facts correctly it makes even the least violent ones look just as bad as the most violent ones. I have another post on here as to how the registry should inform people I hope everyone takes the time to look it up on the KY Registry.

This is for Jessica... How old is your husband now? Is he a lifetime registrar? Have you talked with an attorney about an expungement? But first and foremost has he been in any trouble since this charge? If he has an expungement is not likely. I feel for you and your children and hope this has helped in some way, it may cost some money but well worth it in the end. Good luck and keep your head high hopefully some changes are on the way!

Well I believe if Foley is not put on this registry then it should be done away with all togther! It is for people who commits crimes exactly as he has comitted suposedly, so he should not be exempt and if he is then we as a society should do something about it. And if we don't we are just as guilty as he is. We are no better than that nieghbor who knows a child is bieng abused and fails to get involved, until it is to late. If one has to bear the cross then all should have to. He is the one to bring this register about then to turn around and defy the nation like he has done is a disgrace. The devil did not make him do it in my eyes he is the devil!!! To put so many men and women and families thru what he has due to this register to turn around and have the same skeletons in his closet just enrages me to no end. I have no mercy for him, his family, just as he had none in mind for the men, women, and families who would end up on this register. Let him get a feel of what it is like for his family to be ashamed to leave home, children and grandchildren ashamed to go to school, unable to live anywhere in peace. I say give it to him he has earned it!!

This post is to ecanoe, if I may ask.... how old were your children when this happened? Did it happen to them at the same time for a long period of time? Or seperatly on different occasions one time or more? Has he/she been to court and found guilty and if so of what and does it require him/her to register? Are your children getting counceling, if not they need to! I was a victim at age 12 myself and that is what got me through and helped me to realize I had nothing to be ashamed of and that I had done no wrong. It helped me hold my head up again. How did this person have access to your children, was he a family member? The men involved in my case lived across the street from me. He was a police officer of all people. So they come from all walks of life. It helps to talk about it, if they want to talk about it ... then listen to them, cry with them and hold them even when they tell you they don't want you to because they really do.... keep telling them that they are still the same person they were, only stronger, because as a victim you feel like part of you has been stolen...taken away and you are never going to be the same again, and truly you aren't the same, but you can grow wiser and stronger from such a devastating experience and let others learn from your experience, or you can let this eat you up inside and destroy your life. Tell them to not fall victim a second time to the shame, grief and anger unfairly afflicted upon them. I wish you and your children all the best and truly hope that with love, understanding, and peace you will find the inner peace you all so deserve. Healing begins with forgiveness it may take time, but I had to in order to heal completely and go on.